Orphan Joshua Van Ruuyen rebuilds life after horror crash
Published: 00:01, 02 March 2013
Joshua van Rooyen with his smiling mum Colleen
by Joe Walker
Seven years ago a 12-year-old boy walked through Heathrow airport, one hand clinging to his aunt and the other to the ashes of his mother.
That boy was Joshua van Rooyen, who was left an orphan after his devoted mum Colleen was senselessly killed in a horror crash in Wincheap.
The popular teacher had been on her way to collect her son from cricket practice when she was hit by two oncoming cars driving dangerously in a narrow country lane.
Joshua could hear the sound of the emergency sirens racing to the scene as he waited for her to show at Simon Langton Grammar School for Boys. She never arrived.
Joshua – who was an only child – hasn’t picked up a cricket bat since and his sports bag from that night still sits in his wardrobe, untouched for seven years.
Joshua and Colleen play in the sand on a trip to the beach
But as another year passes since Colleen van Rooyen’s untimely death, a truly heart-warming story emerges about the broken son she left behind.
Speaking on the anniversary of her death, Colleen’s sister, Linda van Rooyen told how she took Joshua in to her family home 9,000 miles away in Pretoria, South Africa.
He has since embarked on a journey from untold heartbreak to academic success and personal achievement.
Linda said: “Due to the reckless and thoughtless behaviour by two young boys Colleen’s life ended and Joshua lost his mum.
“They were an inseparable pair and Josh was left with no one to call his own.
“In March 2006 I returned to South Africa with an emotionally destitute little boy.
“So many traumatic nights started this journey, with Joshua crying out at night and whimpering for his mum, but thanks to the support of our immediate and extended family, as well as Colleen’s dear and bereaved friends, Joshua soon realised that he was not going to be forgotten just because his mum was dead.
“However, the healing for Joshua only really started after the criminal court case, with the guilty verdict vindicating his mum.
“He could then move forward and stop blaming her or himself. “
Now 19, Joshua is studying mechanical engineering at the University of Pretoria. He achieved remarkable results in the South African equivalent of A-levels, achieving 90% in all his subjects.
Linda said: “He is such a dedicated student. Colleen would be so proud of him.
“He is who he is because of his mum. She worked hard to instil values in him, to teach him a work ethic and to teach him honesty and loyalty.
“I have not had to teach him any lessons – he learnt them all from Colleen in the 12 years and three weeks she was in his life.
“I have only had to make sure that Joshua has felt secure, loved and had a roof over his head.
“To this end I hope I have served him and Colleen well.”
"his cricket bag is as it was on the night of colleen’s death and he has kept it in his cupboard" – joshua's aunt linda
The death of his mum has left a lasting impact on Joshua, who never speaks of her or the crash.
Linda said: “Josh listens when we talk about memories with his mum, but he never talks about Colleen or the accident.
“Previously he would not want us to even mention his mum. His cricket bag is as it was on the night of Colleen’s death and he has kept it in his cupboard.
“He has never looked at nor lifted a cricket bat since the night of February 22, 2006.
“His actions clearly show that he remembers her vividly and the details of the night of the accident.”
Linda describes Josh as a “little fighter” and says everything he has become is because of his mum.
She said: “He’s so much like his mother; talented, artistic, creative, hard-working, logical and always looking to do better, to be better and love more.
“Thank you to my sister Colleen, who taught Joshua so much and who loved us all so much that she left Joshua with a legacy of love and us with a family heirloom – her son, a bright shining talented star.
“I cannot thank everyone enough for all the love, support and hard work that went into healing the broken child that came to live with me.
“Joshua’s heart will always remain broken, but he is not broken.”
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