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A heartbroken mum, preparing to mark the fifth anniversary since her son was killed in a road accident, feels the time has come to contact the people who inherited his organs.
Cyclist Daniel Squire, 18, was struck by a van near Ringwould on the Dover to Deal road on September 7, 2013.
He was airlifted to a London hospital but died the next day.
His parents Tracy and Symon Squire took the brave decision to donate their son’s organs, giving at least four people the chance of an improved quality of life.
Five years on, Mrs Squire says she will now put pen to paper and begin the process of contacting the recipients of Daniel’s heart, lung and two kidneys.
She told KentOnline: “The time has come now to fill in the form, start the process and see where it takes me.
“Daniel’s dad is in full support. We both want them to know what a great person our son was.
“We want to know whose lives he’s saved and how their lives have improved. Some positiveness has come out of something so horrible.
“Eventually I hope to meet them. I hope to be brave enough.”
Having received letters from some of the donor recipients via the transplant team, she knows that a 56-year-old man received Daniel’s heart while a young mum of three was given his kidney. Until now, she has found it too difficult to reply.
Mrs Squire has compared the past five years without her “irritatingly funny” and “kind” son to being dealt a life sentence.
She said: “Five years ago my life was normal and one day that changed.
“I’ve lost out on so much. I look at it and think it’s now five years since I’ve spoken to him, been able to cuddle him or hold his hand.
“It just feels like it’s a life sentence, like a black cloud is hanging over me everyday.
“I feel so exhausted by the way I feel but I have a daughter, Hayley and grandaughter Keira, plus Daniel’s dad, who is my best friend. I couldn’t do it without them.
"It just feels like it’s a life sentence, like a black cloud is hanging over me everyday" - Tracy Squire
“I have days when I feel like giving up but if I do something silly, I’ll never see him again. I’d end up in a different place.
“My ultimate dream is to see him again.”
Philip Sinden, who was driving a Vauxhall Vivaro that collided with Daniel’s bike, was cleared of causing death by dangerous driving and the lesser charge of causing death by careless driving in March 2015.
The trial focused on whether he was on his phone at the time of impact and he admitted texting in the minutes before he struck Daniel.
Mrs Squire has since turned her focus to campaigning against the use of mobiles behind the wheel.
She said: “I still see people using their phones. It’s terrible.
“It makes me so angry because they could be the next person to kill an innocent person. It can happen in the blink of an eye and it changes lives completely.”
She thinks Daniel would be proud of her work with both the East Kent Mercury newspaper’s Why Risk It? campaign which saw thousands display sticklers and air freshers in their cars, as well as her texting while driving awareness video with Romex.
She has also helped other bereaved families by training to became a volunteer with The Compassionate Friends helpline and was invited by RoadPeace – the national charity for road crash victims - to speak at a special memorial service at St James’s Church in London.
She is proud of the fundraising memorial games which bring Daniel’s friends together. The fifth annual memorial match between Daniel’s former team Rover Colts and Deal Legends will be at Deal Town Football Club on Friday. Kick off is at 7pm.
She said: “I feel proud that I’ve done that and I’m keeping his memory alive.”
Entry is free but donations to Brake, a charity helping families of crash victims, are welcome.
There will also be a raffle with a bottle of Moet and a family pass for Legoland up for grabs, followed by a disco.
Meanwhile, the latest figures show parents are significantly less likely to donate their child’s organs for lifesaving transplants, which limits the number of organs available for children on the transplant waiting list.
The statistics, released by NHS Blood and Transplant for Organ Donation Week, show only 48% of families supported donation for a relative aged 17 and under last year.
That compares to an average of 66% families agreeing for relatives of all ages.
In Kent, 49 children aged 17 and under have waited for a transplant over the last 10 financial years.
A total of 16 children aged 17 and under have also become solid organ donors.