Carina Neeves raises thousands after losing baby
Published: 17:37, 05 September 2018
Updated: 17:51, 05 September 2018
A mother has told of the "indescribable" pain she has suffered losing her baby during labour.
Carina Neeves, of Broadstairs, was nearly 41 weeks pregnant when she was induced at Margate’s QEQM.
But on a routine check in the early hours of the April 26 found that her baby, Florence Grace, had tragically died.
Now, she is hoping to turn this heartbreak into help by holding a fundraising walk in her daughter's memory.
“She was absolutely perfect,” the 35-year-old said.
“Mark and I got pregnant with our first child together, which was planned and we really wanted. She was a little girl called Florence.
“At about 33 weeks they were reporting growth issues, they thought she was a little bit small.
“I kept being checked but they weren’t overly concerned as I was healthy and a low risk.
“At 40 weeks, she still hadn’t arrived so I was in and out of hospital having checks, and they were still saying she was measuring quite small.
"I went into hospital on April 25 and they admitted me to be induced, with checks every couple of hours.
“The Thursday morning came and I was being checked and they took me off the monitor in the early hours and when they put it on again she had died within two hours.
"I was on my own so I called my mum and Mark, and they kept checking and checking to see if there was a heartbeat, but they said she’d gone.
“Then they said I had to deliver, and I had her that afternoon.
“She came at 5.47pm and she was absolutely perfect, just beautiful. The hospital has launched an investigation which I think is standard practice.
“What they have found now, which they didn’t know at the time, was that my placenta failed at 37 weeks.
"It’s only been 17 weeks so it’s been hard but we just wanted to turn this tragedy into something positive and we just wanted to help others.
“The pain endured is indescribable and we are overwhelmed at how many people have been affected by Florence’s story, and the love and support we have received has been so comforting.
“Our lives will forever have a missing piece.”
Miss Neeves has organised the charity walk for Tommy’s charity, which funds research into stillbirth, premature births and miscarriages.
"The pain endured is indescribable and we are overwhelmed at how many people have been affected by Florence's story, and the love and support we have received" - Carina Neeves
The fundraising target of £500 has already been smashed, with more than £3,000 donated so far.
More than 150 people have already signed up for the three-mile walk, which is on Sunday from George VI memorial park in Ramsgate to Sir Stanley Gray in Broadstairs.
“So many people have come forward and shared stories of loss with me, and I wanted to do something for them as well so we can all come together and support one another,” Miss Neeves added.
“I have been doing a lot of reading about what happened to me and I found Tommy’s charity.
“They’ve been really supportive and I thought if I can just help one mum, help one baby survive then it would be amazing.
“So I’ve decided to do this fundraiser, and we are doing one of the walks I used to do when I was pregnant with Florence.
“It’s my birthday as well so I wanted to do something for her.
“We’ve had so much love, kindness and support from people and we just wanted to thank everyone.
"We are going to try again for a baby, and we hope we get our rainbow baby.
“When you’ve lost a baby and you have another one it is called a rainbow baby, because after a storm comes a rainbow.
“Tommy’s has got a rainbow clinic, and they’ve offered to support us with our next pregnancy.
“She’s in our hearts and minds and we cry for her every day but we just want to try and do something positive for everyone else.”
- To donate, go to www.justgiving.com/fundraising/Carina-Neeves
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